Stewart and I were married on the farm 20 years ago this month. We had a beautiful ceremony in the chapel-like dining room of the main hacienda - a special (gorgeous!) room that, since it only seats 40 - is rarely seen by our clients. We were the first in our circle of friends to get married so we had no idea what we were doing (boy, we have come a long way...). Over the 20 years since, I have seen so many couples stressed by the expectations that others have of their spec